Waiting

My husband and I recently celebrated our fourth anniversary. Many times I say “time flies”—and it truly does! But when it comes to our marriage, my husband and I like to laugh about the fact that in many ways if feels longer than four years. I already feel like I have spent my whole life with my husband and I almost can’t remember myself without him. Perhaps that’s because he truly is my second half and I have been married to him in spirit my whole life! Now there’s a romantic idea.

My husband is my biggest support and my best friend. I wasn’t married until I was close to 30, so I had plenty of time to see how life was as an adult on my own. I was successful, but not completely happy. If I were to define in a word how my life has changed in the past four years, I’d say that I am happy.

I know what it’s like to be alone, though, and so here are a few words for those people who have not found the person who they are waiting for in life. First, it’s worth the wait when you find the right person. Second, life changes suddenly, so don’t hibernate or you might miss the opportunity you’ve been waiting for! Third, even while being single, life is very meaningful. In fact, it’s rich. As a single person, I was able to experience a life that was carefree in many ways, spontaneous, and just plain fun. Now that I’m tied down with a family, I’m very glad I had that decade to enjoy my independence. Finally, if there is something that you can do to feel better about yourself and your circumstances, do it. For me, I got a couple of college degrees, lost weight, and traveled. Life looks pretty exciting when there are goals to be met ahead, and goals that have been accomplished behind.